These are not secrets, but rather knowledge. Not everyone thinks that their personal relationships need to be built. The creation of such relationships should be treated with special sensitivity and attention, and not let things go by themselves. All difficulties that arise, even the most insignificant ones, must be resolved immediately and cannot be postponed until better times. Let me give you an analogy. Agree that you will be comfortable in your house only after you build it, equip it, and then settle in again. At the same time, you need to foresee a lot of nuances, do it gradually and not chase the result. Also in personal relationships. Restructuring cannot be quick. Another person has lived a different life, respectively, he has a different life experience. He was raised by other people, he had other teachers and friends, he read other books, etc. In addition, we differ not only in interests, but also in psychological parameters. The problem arises when we count on something that does not exist and never will, or that a restructuring in a new way will happen faster than it will happen. We must be patient, benevolent and consistent, and these qualities must be the qualities of a strong person, ready to work, make decisions and take responsibility for them. After all, everything that we do in our relations with other people, we do first of all for ourselves.