You read and think that everyone draws a certain image in their head and then tries to find it, and not finding it, they just do their best to adjust those who are nearby to their ideal, while some break them, without even thinking about the consequences. And women, in turn, need to be simply sincerely loved for what they are, even if they are very far from ideal, looked after as loving parents once did, cherished like the apple of an eye - we feel this very subtly, took care of them as the most precious thing in the world, then each will not only bloom, trying to please everyone around with its beauty, but also give its own special scent of the soul. Everything seems to be so simple, so easy and accessible, but how many have you seen such women? Units.
Since childhood, as far as I can remember, I wanted a family, I never even thought that I would live alone, but, oddly enough, I never drew a certain image of my man in my head, never endowed him with any qualities and dignities. Perhaps the only thing that was constant in these childhood dreams was kindness and love, nothing more special, nothing requiring sacrifices or high costs. Now, years later, looking into myself deeper, I understand that this image has not changed at all, no rearrangement of forces, no substitutions and shifts in any direction. Probably, these are the only qualities in a person that become more perfect over the years, and therefore are the most valuable.
In recent years, more and more often I come across the fact that most people necessarily draw in their heads the image of their half to the smallest details, without even thinking that such people simply cannot exist in nature, because if they have all such desirable qualities, then everything is in them there is also a fly in the ointment, which can spoil their whole taste. And then, having found someone similar, they try to mold the person who has taken place, the very one, from their ideas about what he should be. It is not surprising that such couples most often do not withstand such external interference, such pressure on each other and disintegrate under the yoke of inconsistency.
All the same, I think that you need to start dreaming and drawing images in childhood, when the world is still seen so bright and clean, when a person still has practically no problems, when the most important thing in life is the presence of a close and loving person nearby, despite how this the person looks like what qualities and wealth he possesses, because the most important thing is that this person is near and he loves you. And what could be more precious than this feeling?