Do you know what advice most annoys me in various articles, TV series or books? This is the advice to be yourself, do what you like and just be happy.

Well, maybe this can be counted as three of the Council, but to me they're all equally annoying)

I don't know exactly what it means to be yourself. What kind of me-is that exactly me? Sometimes I have bouts of apathy and I lie in bed all day (as long as the children allow) and watch a TV series in the background. I get out of bed only to eat myself, to feed the children, and for other natural needs.

There are days when I wake up even before the alarm clock and have time to work, and walk with the children, and clean the apartment, and even cook for dinner something more difficult than pasta with sausages.

Which of these days am I more real? I don't know, so the advice to "be yourself" seems questionable.

Or here's the "do what you like" advice. I remember that when I was a teenager, I sincerely wanted to lie on the couch every day, read my favorite books in the fantasy genre, husk seeds and wash it all down with cola (preferably 2 liters a day).

Indulging these desires leads, at least, to excess weight, which will not make my life easier in the future. Therefore, again, it turns out that this advice "do what you like and what your heart tells you" should not be taken literally. I understand that this means not to torment yourself and sometimes go on vacation, and not to do everything that comes to mind.

Well, just to be happy, so it's generally a curtain. Do you feel happy just like that? I here is extremely rarely. Most often, I have a lot to do, and I don't have time to just "be happy". But even on those days when I just lie in bed and watch TV shows, I still don't feel "just happy". So I suspect that this is just another myth.

Well, here it is. I am 31 years old, I already have two children. But I still don't know when I'll realize that I'm just happy and I'll be able to enjoy this feeling.

Sometimes it seems to me that when all the worries are over and we can just enjoy the fruits of our labors - this will already be a deep pension and we will not be happy there by age.