I try at all times to patient and give benefit of the doubt. After all, it is hard to know precisely what the other is going through. We must totally and implicitly trust in words. Such is the way of internet dating and love. Especially when hundreds of kilometers or miles are between and there is not a possibility of a casual spontaneous date on a Saturday evening. And throw in the draconian and utterly needless lockdown measures most governments have taken, it’s stifles even the most intent of lovers to be.
The desire is to believe your date. And yet sometimes, outsid forces creep in and cause distrust issues. Many men lose much financially to scam and cat phishing. And many ladies as well suffer abuse. This happens because of the trusting nature of the majority. Yet at the same time, those of us who trust can have much caution because of a prior bad incident.
For me personally, I had a very bad incident previously. Even while my ex-wife and I were separated, I was looking for a new job, found a lady friend who promised me the world of love. I put in much financial support. To make a long story short and spare the bad details, she kick me out of her life just as I was accepting a lateral financial job to be near her. I had to decline the job and go back to my old home. Not only did my finances suffer a blow from my investment in her, but my heart was horribly scarred. Yet here I am again. Why, because we crave to love and be loved.
We are creatures of unity and togetherness. We search the landscape for “the One” that will make us happiest. I have found that one for me. We have written many times to each other. My heart still feels the pain from three ago. Yet she is stripping away those scars and making my heart feel new again. And despite that, I read how the internet dating sites are nothing but scams. And with some of the dating attempts I have had personally in the last year, I can believe that. Yet, I know some people who made it work perfectly. I believe I can be one of those with the lady I have asked into my life. Love is always a risk. It exposes us. It can wound and scar anyone at anytime. And just a little bit of miscommunication can end a perfect love tragically, a la Romeo and Juliet. I will do all I can to keep the communication clear. My love trusts. I hope this is the last time it has to trust.