My 18-year-old niece went through a situation faced by millions of girls and women: her boyfriend left her, and he did it very rudely and even vulgarly. A banal life situation, you will say. Everyone went through this. It's easy to philosophize about it when you have order in your heart, and everything is super in personal life. But how to help a young heart, how to survive the pain of being abandoned and neglected? My niece asked me why girls fall in love with bad guys. Why are rude, aggressive, fickle, riotous guys considered sex symbols and so desirable?
I am a young woman, but in my 50s I have life experience, and I know men, I know the truth of life. In my opinion, girls only fall in love with bad guys because they feel like they should love the one they deserve; in my opinion, the whole problem is low self-esteem. A woman who is confident in herself, respects and loves herself, knows what she wants, will never allow herself to be insulted and openly neglected.I'm not a feminist, but I am sure that from a young age girls need to be taught to love and respect themselves , develop confidence and be able to stand up for hereselves. The most important thing is that from childhood both parents and school should help develop self-esteem. A girl will be loved, respected and appreciated by men only when she loves, respects and protects herself.
Elena