How should couples behave in bed for a happy marriage?

Sexuality is a must for marriage. Sex, which plays a key role in long-term relationships, is also one of the biggest reasons for separation. Unfortunately, the relationship of couples who are unhappy in bed do not last long. So how should couples treat each other in bed for a happy marriage?

Every married couple wants to be happy in their marriage, to have a home where they feel well understood and understood. For happiness in marriage, each couple has responsibilities to do. Isn't there anything that couples have to do other than just being responsible and fulfilling their financial and moral duties for their family? At this point, the material elements for happiness in marriage, that is to say, the things that need to be done other than making a living and fulfilling the health and other duties of family members, emerge. Because marriage is an institution that contains many different elements.

Cannot be expressed clearly
Effective use of mutual speaking, listening and understanding skills, controlling anger, sharing domestic responsibilities, and sharing common moments are of great importance in sexual life between spouses for a good marital life. Sexuality is a process that is often not clearly expressed, not even among the spouses, but it affects how the relationship continues.

In order to fully understand the impact of sexuality on marital life, we must first touch on what is paid attention to, what is given more importance among couples, and to what extent these affect sexual life.

Couples pay attention to intimacy and intimacy the most. To whom do you open the joys and pains in the depths of your soul the most? With whom do you share moments that are very special to you? You do all of this with people you feel sincere and close to. The best answer to the question of whether such intimacy and intimacy is necessary for sexuality can be said “yes, it is necessary for a satisfying sexuality”.

It is necessary to establish intimacy and to be sincere, because the readiness of men and women is necessary for sexuality to be experienced, and this readiness goes through different preparation periods for men and women. It is necessary to be in close and sincere relationships in order to be able to respond to and adapt to each other's different readiness and conversations between the couples.

It is more important for a woman to be understood
While being understood, verbal and physical commitment is important for women; For the man, it is more important to be able to make the other person happy.

In such a situation, it is also different for men and women to prepare for sexuality. A woman needs love to desire sexuality and to prepare herself for sexuality, while a man needs sexuality to feel love. In other words, the man realizes his love through sexual arousal.

Men and women have different understanding of sexuality
While a woman needs love for sexual intercourse, a man needs sexuality in order to open her love. When the emotional needs of the woman are met, she becomes interested in sexuality. Men also want to experience their love and affection deeply, but they need to feel sexually stimulated for this.

If different requests are not treated ...
At this point, there is sometimes conflict between men and women. Because a woman needs to be in touch with her husband in order to show that she loves and to feel loved. The man also wants to love and be loved, but needs sexuality to feel this. When men and women want to have sexual intercourse, when they cannot be treated according to these differences, it may not be possible to be aroused and reach satisfaction together. This can lead to an unhappy bed relationship.

Communication is important
In order to overcome this situation, it is important to have good communication between couples, to be able to continue talking during sexual preparation, to express their wishes and desires more clearly, and to be willing to satisfy each other's requests. Despite the desire of the man to flare up in a short time and to satisfy his sexual desire as soon as possible, the fact that the woman is in a slow and increasing arousal situation may create conflict and if they do not have sufficient communication and cannot speak clearly, the desired satisfaction may not be achieved.

An important point here is the measure of success in sexuality. Again, we see that this situation varies from woman to man. Contrary to popular belief, the man feels successful in sexuality is about whether his wife is satisfied or not. When his wife reaches sufficient sexual satisfaction, he feels successful and happy.

In order for the sexual experience to be considered successful for the woman, it is their own satisfaction. The reason for this is more, the more complex the arousal of the woman, the more unsatisfied in every sexual intercourse.

It counts as a success to achieve satisfaction that is not always possible during sexual intercourse.

Another situation that affects the quality of sexual intercourse between couples is both the couples' self-confidence and their trust in their spouse. If a woman or a man thinks that he can express everything openly to his spouse and that he likes to take care of himself, this supports the satisfaction of the relationship. If the woman knows that her partner loves to take care of her and that she can meet the time-consuming arousal with love and understanding, she will leave her alone during sexuality. If the man feels that he is cared for by the woman and that his requests are received with love and interest by his woman, he will be able to reach satisfaction during sexuality and behave more interested in his wife.

Although there are many factors that affect satisfaction during sexual activity, it is seen that the basis of everything is good communication, mutual interest, love and understanding, getting to know each other about sexual satisfaction and the desire of couples to reach satisfaction.