"What do you want out of life? Do you know?
We all need a personal philosophy in life or we risk wandering and responding to random stimuli and information with little or no impact on our long-term goals.
A philosophy of life is an overall vision or attitude toward life and the purpose of it.
Human activities are limited by time, and death.
But we forget this.
We fill up our time with distractions, never asking whether they are important, whether we really find them of value.
Without a personal philosophy, we end up living without direction.
The idea of a life philosophy, comes back to a central question, one that Mary Oliver (an American poet who won the National Book Award and the Pulitzer Prize) asks well:
“What will you do with your one wild and precious life?
Nothing gives a person a sense of purpose, inner wholeness and peace like a distinct understanding of where they are going.
Robert Bryne (American author and Billiard Congress of America Hall of Fame instructor of pool and carom billiards) once observed, “The purpose of life is a life of purpose.”
In order to get somewhere, you need to define your end goal. That is essential. And the sooner you define it, the clearer everything else will become. A life without a purpose is a life without a destination.
Finding the right direction in life is an existential problem for all of us.
What do you look forward to in life?
Living without purpose is dangerous.
Fyodor Dostoyevsky once said, “The mystery of human existence lies not in just staying alive, but in finding something to live for.”
Finding the right direction in life is something you create. You make the decision to act. To try. To do something. No matter how small.
At some point in life, you’re going to have to stop thinking about taking action and act.
Your purpose in life is to find and do the things that make you smile, laugh and forget time.
Even if you aren’t sure yet, move into the exploration and experimentation phase of your life and enjoy the journey.
You can’t put time on it. You can’t force yourself to find your “why” tomorrow or next month, or even next year.
But by all means, search for clarity.
In the 1940s, Viktor E. Frankl was held prisoner in Nazi concentration camps.
With all the agony and brutality, what kept Frankl from giving up his relentless fight for his life was purpose!
He found meaning in his struggle, and that’s what gave him the power to push forward through unimaginable pain.
A quote by Viktor nicely sums up his philosophy on how people were able to survive the camps, without losing the will to live.
In his book, Man’s Search for Meaning, Viktor says,
“Those who have a ‘why’ to live, can bear with almost any ‘how.’”
Once you have defined your aims and what you want, it is easier to deal with doubts.
Easier not to get distracted from what is important, keep your focus, and keep moving.
Only sustained movement in one direction can bring tangible results.
You have permission to change your goal, rethink, choose another, by all means.
It’s hard to maintain any momentum if your direction lacks definition.
In order to reach big goals, you need time, during which you must continue moving in your chosen direction, not veering off course.
Defining your direction is the most important decision in life in general, but much fewer people realize it.
Living “on purpose” means you live intentionally.
Napoleon Hill (an American self-help author; he is known best for his book Think and Grow Rich) once said,
“There is one quality that one must possess to win, and that is definiteness of purpose, the knowledge of what one wants, and a burning desire to possess it.
In order to get what you want, you have to choose one direction and move towards it, constantly improving over a prolonged period of time.
Maximum speed and output requires a precise framework.
People who have made genuine changes in their lives and managed to attain difficult goals are not stronger, more intelligent or fearless than you.
The only difference is the decision to act in the direction of their dreams.
A strong sense of purpose fuels your motivation.
Successful people have a definite sense of direction.
They have a clear understanding of what success means to them.
Everything they do is consistent with their goals.
They look forward and decide where they want to be.
Their day to day actions helps them move closer to their vision.
Once you find your why, you will be more careful and selective about your daily actions.
In her book, Brave: 50 Everyday Acts of Courage to Thrive in Work, Love and Life, Margie Warrell (a best selling author, international speaker on courage in leadership, and media commentator), writes
“Knowing your why is an important first step in figuring out how to achieve the goals that excite you and create a life you enjoy living (versus merely surviving!).
Margie continues
“Indeed, only when you know your ‘why’ will you find the courage to take the risks needed to get ahead, stay motivated when the chips are down, and move your life onto an entirely new, more challenging and more rewarding trajectory.”
Clarity of purpose challenges you to do better and commit to actions that get you closer to the one thing you really want in life.
With clarity, you can pull together resources, ideas and people for a common cause.
Without it, there is wasted effort and even chaos.
Your direction defines what you do every day.
Clarifying not only your purpose but your direction reinforces your ultimate life purpose.
You should have a clear understanding of what you want next month, next quarter or next year.
Think about it: When you feel unclear about a goal, you have difficulty achieving it.
And if you don’t know why you should do something, you lack commitment to taking action.
Bud Bilanich, an executive coach, says to develop your personal clarity of purpose you need to do three things:
First, define what success means to you personally.
Second, create a vivid mental image of you as a success; this image should be as vivid as you can you make it.
Third, clarify your personal values.
Getting clear about what you want is a process of trial and error!
Try something. Then ask yourself: Do I like this? Yes. No.
Get a journal and start putting down your feelings, thoughts, actions and behaviors.
Use what you write as a way to pinpoint areas you are constantly exploring.
Evaluate your results constantly.
What actions, thoughts, beliefs and behaviors are you attracted to the most?
The key is to do more of what you enjoy and of what brings out the very best in you, and then you will continually clarify what it is that you want to do, be and have in life.
People who are constantly striving to achieve something meaningful in life crave clarity.
It’s the only way to reach deeper into yourself to find out what makes you come alive.
We all start from somewhere confusing, because you probably like to do a lot of things.
But once you define your purpose, you will become unstoppable.
I would suggest taking some time in a quiet place to think about where you are headed in life.
Are you happy with the direction of your life at the moment?
The good news is, it’s never too late to change direction because you are in control.
Reevaluate how you’re doing with living according to your core beliefs, principles and philosophies.
Adjust your goals and parameters so they’re up-to-date.
Never be afraid of questioning everything once again.
What life philosophies do you knowingly or unknowingly live by?"
Excerpts from Why Everybody Needs a Life Philosophy
By Thomas Oppong, Founder of Alltopstartups
Oct. 17, 2018