Dear ones, I wanted to raise with you a topic that touched me to the core. Yesterday, my friend told me that her husband does not believe in what she is interested in, does not support the initiatives and devalues her interests.
My heart sank, I remembered the times when I needed support myself, and people nearby not only did not support me, but demotivated me with their negative attitudes.
It took a long time before I became my own support. I learned to attract the same people, with similar views. And even though I know how to support myself now, it is still critically important for us to approve, understand, accept and respect our choice.
Otherwise, I don't understand how girls develop? How to take risks and take a step into an unknown future. How to get a new experience, if there is a person who is ready to judge you and devalue you.
It's very difficult. I know that many girls live in such relationships. They are dependent and do not know what it is to be supported and respected.
I want to be your support and tell you that you deserve more. You have only one life and there are so many interesting things in it. Do not be afraid to be independent, on the contrary, strive for independence! I'm not asking you to burn bridges, but I'm asking you to respect yourself. Value yourself, love yourself, love your choices.
It is difficult to hear the voice of the heart when the voices of fear, condemnation and blame are too loud. But you can, you have to be brave and honest with yourself. After looking once into the eyes of an unpleasant truth, then it is not scary, then there is only one desire - to change everything. And when there is such a solution, there will be opportunities, the main thing is to believe in yourself and trust this world.
So go ahead! Develop and your partner will look at you with different eyes, full of love and approval. Or it will attract its own person with whom you will be on the same wave, who understands what is being said from the middle of a word, on the intonation. And if he doesn't understand, he believes in you and your friends!