Let yourself be different. Not suitable for any categories, frames, stereotypes, typologies and types. Not living up to anyone's expectations and not acting to please anyone against her will.
Allow yourself not to be afraid for an adult child. And for a not very adult, allow yourself not to be afraid. Allow yourself not to think that "except for me, no one needs anything in this house." Allow yourself not to run ahead of the locomotive. And behind too - do not run. Just don't run. Maybe even wait for the train going in the right direction. And sit in the SV, and not stand at the stoker, throwing a coal.
Allow yourself sometimes not to think about your husband. Or beloved. Or a lover. Don't think about him for a while. Neither where did he stay, nor why has he not answered your message for 20 seconds, nor why has he not bought flowers. Don't think about him. Think about yourself.
Allow yourself to ignore what your friend says. Or even the best friend. Especially if she says something "very important to you, dear." Let yourself be occupied with yourself. At least an hour a day. One hour, even if it consists of torn pieces of minutes. Allow yourself not to say, "I don't have time for myself." It is. Let me take it for you.
Let yourself dream. And definitely in a big way. Let me dream of the unrealizable (how do you know that it is unrealizable?). Let yourself be. Allow yourself to be worthy of any money, any reward, any glory, great love, great rest. Just allow it. Let yourself be yourself.
First JUST RESOLVE. Then you will see what will happen ...