Over time, almost every woman has a kind of "measure" that measures all spheres of life, their own and others' proportions, opportunities, someone's imposed idea of ​​what I should be and what to be bad. And gradually, day after day, we forget our true nature, because being ourselves means being out of trend and being kind of out of topic!
The worst thing is that instead of cooperation, mutual respect for the uniqueness of each of us, we women get involved in endless competition with each other, thereby supporting and cultivating common fears and illusions.

As a consequence of this, the trend is not to be yourself, but to be like someone. Appeals that are promoted by the super-guru, as it were, sexuality and femininity: pull from the man everything that you can and remember; always be sexually attractive and forget that your man is tired, demand, be capricious, manipulate! "You don't have silicone lips? Your breasts are not pumped up? No silicone buttocks like Kim Kardashian's? Do you have ordinary eyebrows, and not" Brezhnev "eyebrows that make men sick?

We ourselves instill in ourselves inanimate and artificial stereotypes. And we develop an inferiority complex where it shouldn't be. Never.

For example, getting old is scary.
Being single after 30 and not being a mom is awful.
Taking a leadership position and solving problems - you are a man in a skirt. Being a housewife and a mom - your life has failed.
Your weight is more than 70 kg - what a horror! Cellulite ?? !!! How can you live with this ????

To have many partners - a lascivious woman, not sleeping with anyone - something is wrong with you - "Urgently find yourself someone" for health "! Chocolate instead of steamed broccoli ??? Nightmare! What century do you live in? ??

The list is endless. Why is this done?

Great PR of fitness clubs, beauty industry, fashion and nutritionists, who are now at the height of fashion. The cult of beauty maintains the illusion of eternal youth. Well, who among us at the age of 16 did not think, looking at older women: "I will never be like this! I will be forever young!"?

A woman who is scared, immersed in her own complexes and doubts, with a low assessment and a look "at the floor" is a woman who is comfortable, controlled and controlled. A woman is self-confident, unique in her individuality, happy and contented with life, with adequate self-esteem - she is uncomfortable because she knows what she wants from life, is in almost harmony with her Self, and at the most inopportune moment she can say “NO!”.

That is why, from a young age, girls are driven into a stereotypical framework, as it were, of femininity, so that later it would be easier to manage them. But my fellow psychologists know how many tragedies are hidden behind this desire for imaginary perfection, and how great the degree of depressive disorders, which progresses in parallel with the increasing figure of age.