When Is Balance Loss In Marriages?
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There is a balance of giving and taking in all kinds of human relationships; From time to time, the side that shows more interest or love may change, but the necessity of the balance element never changes. Let's think like a Libra, when the balance is lost in the balance, the taste of the relationship is spoiled and one side has to take it from the bottom all the time; So how long does such a relationship last?

It depends on the patience of the underbody; However, we know that it does not last forever, especially in today's conditions, because everyone has a large number of alternatives or has a perception in this direction due to social media.

Let's go back to the pre-marital relationship stage; You are with a man and for the first three months in the relationship things are going well for the most part. Do not forget that in the first three months, many men offer women their best; He can be polite, understanding, selfless and even emotional. Then, gradually you begin to see the more real face of the man, he turns into a more indifferent, more unsympathetic, distant man whose priorities are starting to emerge and spending more time on other things. Here, pay attention to this point; for it is your actions that will determine the fate of the relationship at this very corner; because the balance in the balance has begun to change.


Some women remain silent and do not react in order not to lose the man they are with, while warning the man with the right style and polite words, they take the changing attitude of the man without making a sound. Their only goal is not to lose this relationship, which they found after a long loneliness. However, this is a very critical mistake because, according to the male behavior pattern, as the other person (male or female) remains silent about his wrong behaviors, this is a great weakness indicator and negative behaviors start to increase more and more.

I've always heard this from women with whom I work individually: "I vacuumed my hair, I always sacrificed, but he never treated me properly!"

Could it be in the answer to the question?

If you are constantly making sacrifices against wrongdoing, you accept the wrong behavior from the man's point of view and therefore do not value yourself;

A man will then ask himself: “This girl doesn't value herself; so why should I care about him? "

I am a guest of women's programs on various television channels during the daytime. Among the questions received on live phone connections in these programs are;

“My wife mistreated and insulted me in the last five years of our marriage, and I know she cheated on me as if all this wasn't enough. What should I do?"
What is evident in such questions is that the balance in marriage has now disappeared, so what should be done? What is the way to bring the man back to equilibrium?

Let's add another question to this question: What is the most read novel in the world?

According to researches, the most widely read novel in world history is "Crime and Punishment."

This novel may not describe relationships, but summarizes the male way of thinking: when a man begins to mistreat a woman in a relationship, the woman's reactions will be decisive. If the woman does not respond at all and remains silent, then it would be delusional to expect the man to suddenly correct his behavior.

When a man begins to mistreat his wife and use bad words in marriage, the woman has to act quickly;

Wrong attitude: Throwing, getting offended, fighting.

Correct attitude: To communicate, to give the first warning to the man with a gentle tone; “You can't treat me this way; because I do not accept this type of behavior ... "

Why should style be soft?

If you want to get results and regain your partner, be smart and be careful to keep your tone soft; because the harsh style gives the man an advantage, and he can tell you with a quick maneuver: "Look, you are constantly nagging me, constantly criticizing, whatever I do, I cannot help you, etc ..."

Of course, he will not be right in saying these things, but this tactic works well in discussions with his wife as it is a tactic that men have used for a long time, whereas a woman who softens even harsh words against men and says in a clever style will always be more effective on the man.

Let's say you made this first warning and the man seems to understand you; but after a while the same rude behavior repeats, so what should you do?

You have found that he does not take your warning seriously, or seriously enough, because it is unlikely that you will be able to withdraw from it. Yes, you must have seen this; Because if he really had a fear about it he would definitely listen to your warning and start to be more careful with you, but he didn't do that and after a short period of peace he started to mistreat you again.

At this point, you will make the second warning to him, but this time, not you, but a person who has a say on your spouse, his closest friend, mother, or a relative from your family ... All or just someone, but someone must speak to him in a serious manner and should warn him. This is the second warning, and the man is now asked to tidy himself up and take care of the marriage, to treat his wife more properly.

In this case, we are moving to the final stage: you have to give the man the fear of losing; otherwise you will never be able to revive a man who has already crossed the line ...

To take you seriously, he has to see you lose.

In this case, the choice is yours, the following methods are preferred by women: Leaving home, returning to their mother's house, filing for divorce, etc.

Don't expect him to change by staying at home with a man who abuses, cheats, uses physical or verbal violence, and refuses to seek professional counseling (therapy). This is impossible. On the contrary, the tension in the house constantly increases and as the intensity of the mutual words in the arguments increases, there is no respect between the spouses.
The sad thing is that some women are financially dependent on their husbands, they have no place to go, because their family does not want him back anyway, there is no institution called divorce in their culture, divorce is never acceptable in some cultures. Therefore, she waits for her husband to change with a magic wand while she condones her husband's bad behavior.

There is no magic wand because there is no such thing as magic in marriages.

The biggest lesson to be given to someone who is constantly disrespectful towards you is to deprive him of you. You can't get out of this obsessive relationship as long as you continue to be with it.

If you have the opportunity, stay away from him for a while, he will fight to win you back.

Take care of yourselves,

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