1) What is attention?
It's the total presence of me next to you. Full presentation, where everything in me is about you: I hear you, observe your reactions, listen to your needs.
This is a low start, from which I am ready to move towards you, almost simultaneously with your request for it.
Attention is a place in my soul for the baggage of your feelings, which are difficult for you to cope with alone.
2) What is empathy and what is its power?
Empathy is my backing vocals on your song about feelings. These are the doors through which I enter my own experiences.
I hear what you feel, and I find it from the store of feelings that I carry in myself. I begin to live in unison with you, I feel the same as you, only this is no longer about you, but about me.
My feelings may be louder than yours, and then I can no longer hear you. My feelings can deafen you, or their volume can make yours sound louder.
Empathy is not about you and what's with you, it's about me and what's woken up in response to yours. In sympathy, I have no place for you, it is occupied by me.
But in sympathy, you have the feeling that you are not alone, because you see me now, who is like you. You lose the uniqueness of your trouble, and it no longer seems like a universal grief, shrinking to the size of "it happens to others too". This is the power of empathy.
When I listen to you, I cannot empathize or sympathize, otherwise I will occupy my space with myself, and you need it now.
Close people (sometimes very briefly close to us) they learn to empathize and empathize by finding feelings within themselves that are similar to our own, and transmitting them to us.
Then they are really close. We seek intimacy and come for sympathy when we need support and support.
And, of course, in life there is almost no pure sympathy or attention. It is almost always a mixture with a different proportion of both.
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