Why is it important to ask yourself questions? I'll show you an example. Tell me, where are you?

I am sure there will be many answers: in the subway, at home, on a walk. However, something else is important. It is important that you pay attention to this. Until I asked the question, you sat quietly and glanced at the lines, thinking about your own thoughts.

In other words, the question controls our attention. He directs it to where it is most needed. Unfortunately, we don't often ask ourselves questions. Maybe because of habit, or maybe because we are afraid to be disappointed in the answers

1. Why do I indulge my weaknesses?
We don't think about where our habits come from. It doesn't matter if they are harmful or useful. Over time, it seems that this is just a mandatory part of life: smoke a cigarette or eat a cake of sadness.

Unfortunately, most of our weaknesses are an attempt to drown out insecurities and neuroses. And without attention to them, you can't get close to solving problems.

2. Why didn't my life plans come to fruition?
Everyone loved to dream as a child. Who to become, what to achieve. Then we were very honest with ourselves and chose only what really attracted us. When was the last time you checked these plans?

3. What do I expect from life?
People are always waiting for something. Sometimes from life in general, sometimes from other people: "And why is it that people around me do not behave as I intended?"

I'll tell you a secret: the only way to realize your expectations is to meet them yourself. Be fair. Waiting for love? Love someone.

4. Why don't I finish things? The
very fact that a person regularly puts things off is a sign of strong uncertainty. He believes that he will either not succeed, or it will turn out badly. No one likes to admit it.

5. What did I do today to make my life easier?
We are afraid of this question, because often the answer is "nothing". A routine that repeats a boring scenario prevents us from enjoying life. But happiness lies in the details, small things that are highly valued.

6. Why do I hold on to something that is time to leave behind?
Resentments and mistakes of the past-there are people who cannot live a day without remembering them to someone. This is an easy way to get rid of responsibility. "I'm not like that, life is like that." You know it?

7. Do I like myself?
The question that underlies self-assessment. It is easy to answer it once, but the effect is only given by regularity. It's easy to like yourself in a suit and tie. It's harder to do this by looking at your shortcomings.

8. Am I responsible for what I have?
Why do I have such a profession? Such a relationship? The answer "Because it is my choice" deprives us of the right to complain.

This is clear from the example of relationships. Here you choose a partner for the best qualities, but do not tolerate his shortcomings. It turns out that you love only the part of the person with whom it is convenient. But you all chose.

Life is the sum of your choices. Respect them.

9. How do I live?
The most difficult question. You need to ask yourself this question regularly and give an honest answer regularly.

Our behavior every day is a reflection of our attitude to life in miniature. If we give in to anger today, why do we think we will get rid of it tomorrow?

This question simultaneously brings us back to the present moment and shows us what is worth working on.


Practice kills fear. So ask yourself questions as often as possible.
Start now. As you read, your answers must have been coming up in your head. Take five minutes to decide if they suit you. And remember: sometimes the question is the answer.