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5 questions that you should ask yourself before getting married
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1. WHY DO YOU WANT TO MARRY HIM?
Rather, why do you want to get married? Is your decision dictated by a sincere attachment to your lover and a desire to start a family and grow old in one day, or do you just want your mother to stop pestering you with hints and questions about marriage? Or maybe you really want to wipe your friends ' noses and get married first? Or just be a princess and show off in a white dress? Try to be honest with yourself and find out whether marriage is really what you really want right now.
2. HOW WELL DO YOU KNOW HIS FAMILY?
Whether we want it or not, the relationship with our parents and the family structure they create affect how we feel about marriage in general, what we expect from it, what we quarrel about and what we are afraid of — so do not neglect communication with your loved one's family, stories about his childhood with viewing school photo albums and gatherings over a cup of tea. Aerobatics — the ability to make friends with the parents of the future husband: if you can do it, consider that you have made the most reliable investment in the happiness of your family.
3. HOW DO YOU IMAGINE YOUR DISTANT FUTURE?
Psychologists say that many couples would be able to avoid breakups if they took this issue seriously — and all because in any relationship, the main cause of conflict is a mismatch of expectations. You may think that your future spouse is ready to become the father of your children by default, that he will not forbid you to communicate with your friends and will certainly help you wash dishes and wash the floor on weekends. At the same time, in the mind of your fiance, the picture of your life together may be completely different — he may not be ready for fatherhood, or for homework and minimal communication with anyone outside the family. So that the differences in future plans do not become a sudden discovery for both of you, frankly discuss your goals and dreams before applying to the registry office.
4. DO YOU KNOW HOW TO FIGHT?
If you just shrug your shoulders in response to this question — they say that we have never quarreled-this is a reason to think: do you know your chosen one well enough? Have you ever had the opportunity to see him not only riding a white horse, happy and confident, but also mistaken, depressed, angry, outright wrong, offended? Did he see your despair, your tears, your tantrums? Or was your communication limited exclusively to romantic conversations and chocolate-marshmallow euphoria? It is not for nothing that they say that with a person, before running to the registry office, it is worth experiencing loss, victory, someone else's victory and repair-only then you will be sure that you really know each other.
5. DO YOU CONSIDER THIS PERSON S?
Even the most ardent passion after some time is replaced by a calm warm affection — in that case, of course, if you know how to be for each other not only lovers. If now your communication is reduced to hot dates in the bedroom, then over the years you will increasingly appreciate in your chosen one a sense of humor, reliability, the ability to compromise and the ability to understand your moods and thoughts without unnecessary words. To be sure of your future, ask yourself the question: if you were not destined to be together, would you want this person to be your friend?

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