Today, people don't want relationships out of fear of losing their freedom or frustration. I used to have this opinion too. We can also be afraid of responsibility because we think that at the moment we can only be responsible for ourselves. And we are afraid of losing carefree time, carried away by our hobbies or spending time with friends. We often think that love is like an invisible chain around your neck that holds you. And you will not go anywhere and will be deprived of the freedom to choose how to spend your leisure time. It's not like that at all.
Love is the unity of the freedom of two people. Your loved one will not forbid you that which brings you joy and development. For example, you enjoy going to the gym or traveling. On the contrary, he supports you in your hobbies, he is interested in making you happy. And he will understand if you need to be alone, for example, read a book. If we give a person freedom, we instill confidence in him. And a loved one has his own hobbies and other values. And at the beginning of a relationship, it is important to show each other that freedom is not lost. We cannot force a person to be who we want.
The fear will go away if we learn in relationships. And the fear of disappointment can also go away if we don't create high expectations. Leaving room for choice makes it easier for us to come to terms with the breakup. We learn with every person. And we ourselves understand that if it were not for one person, then we would not be with the current person now. Give thanks to the past. Let go of the past. Open up to new changes in yourself. This way we will become stronger, wiser and more mature. People can create happiness together if they open up to each other together. And we often think that we do not deserve happiness and are afraid to open up to the world, as if it will protect us from disappointment. If we don't open up, we cannot feel. ⠀
Do not be afraid to love and let the person into your world. Maybe you will not become a husband and wife, but you will receive important life lessons and there will be happy moments in your life.
Who managed to overcome this fear?)