Anyone looking for love online will have seen how dull some profiles can be. To avoid this, follow our advice on what to and not to say in your profile.
Why Is Your Online Profile Important?
Your online profile is the first thing women are looking for a long-term relationship, potentially even a husband, when they log on to FindBride.com. Most of dating sites have thousands of members, meaning it’s easy to get lost in the crowd. This is something you don’t want. More than that, you don’t want to be found and judged in a negative light, which happens more often than you might think.
The photo you use is the first thing women see when they look at profiles, so you need to get this right. So many profile pictures out there look like they were taken at the local jail, with men staring straight into the camera, not smiling. It’s not a good look, and it will mean women are likely to move on quickly.
Once you get the photograph right, you need to think about the content of your profile. With so many other profiles out there, it’s hard to be different and stand out but that’s what you need to do. You want to avoid being boring, unimaginative or stale, repeating what so many other men have said before.
Avoid any urge to look at other profiles and simply copy what these men are saying. Instead, start your profile from scratch, writing from the heart and letting your personality shine through. This way, your profile is more likely to be unique and stand out from the crowd. It’s also going to be more personal and more representative of who you are and the type of man your future wife will be marrying.
For all of this, you can’t avoid talking about certain subjects or touching on topics of conversation that others might have written about. That’s because many people share many of the same interests. The trick is to make what you say sound and feel different from what everyone else out there is saying. So, when you do touch on a common topic, this handy guide should help you, going through as it does, the do’s and don’ts of what you should and shouldn’t say in your profile.
Nowadays lots of men out there love to cook and lots of women out there have an interest in food and fine dining, which makes it a subject that plenty of people are likely to talk about. However, you don’t need to avoid it completely if you have an interest in food because it’s a great conversation starter.
Instead, though, of just saying you like food, talk about the type of food you like to cook and the type of foods you like to eat. What are your favorite recipes and what are your favorite food types? Talk about these in your profile, especially if they are different and not foods people might always eat. If they are foods from a different country, explain what it is about them you like — this is even better if you developed an interest after traveling there.
Food says a lot about the type of person you are, and it doesn’t need to be fine dining. Saying what type of food you like can help women identify common ground with men they might be interested, even if it’s eating hot dogs at a local fair, because it lets them know that they like the same things. Knowing what type of food you each like is a great way to identify places to go on dates too and restaurants you might want to try when you visit your girlfriend in her hometown.
Food isn’t the only thing people might have in common or that women will be interested in finding out about you. They’ll be wondering about your habits and how you live your life. The more of these behaviors you share, the more compatible you’ll be and the more likely you are to be able to form a long-lasting relationship.
Let women reading your profile what life with you might be like. Do you like to get up early, for example, or are you a late sleeper. Do you enjoy a beer or glass of wine on an evening and do you smoke? What do you prefer to eat on an evening and how do you like to spend your downtime — are you someone who likes to be out and active or at home watching TV?
Lots of people have pets and love animals. Not everyone is crazy about them though and so, if you mention you have pets, don’t go over the top. Say what pets you have and how many, for example, but don’t share lots of photos of them and don’t talk about them non-stop in your conversations. As much as a cute picture of your dogs could attract some women, it could easily put others off, so you need to find a balance here.
Our hobbies and interests are the things that define us and make us who we are. They are also one of the best ways to help you stand out in the crowded world of online profiles. Writing about what you love doing shows that you are passionate, regardless of what those interests are, and that you have a fulfilling life. If your hobby or interest is offbeat or different, that’s even better because it will make women stop and pay attention. Saying that, it’s easy to get carried away when you love doing something, so — just like when you talk about pets — make sure you find a balance. Share what you enjoy doing but don’t go overboard and talk about nothing else.
When you are talking about things you love, be that food, hobbies or interests, it might be tempting to write a list. Stay away from these wherever you can because they don’t say much about who you are and what you are like as a person.
Russian women are attracted to men who are driven and have life goals. Sharing these in your profile, then, is a good idea. Make sure, though, that the goals you write about are real and you are likely to achieve them. You might not want to say, for example, that you plan on climbing Mount Everest if you haven’t even listed mountain climbing as a hobby or that you plan on becoming a billionaire by Christmas. It’s much better to talk about goals that link to your hobbies and interests. If you run for example, and regularly achieve 10K, maybe you’ll want to say that you hope to run a half-marathon in the next year.
Talking about your religious beliefs is one of the areas that you probably don’t want to talk about too much beyond saying if you believe in God or are a regular churchgoer. If you are only looking for a girlfriend who is religious, then there are better dating sites to register with, ones where you can talk about your love of God with women who strongly share this belief. Other things to avoid here are ending your profile with terms like “God Bless You” as it probably sends the wrong message.
While your potential future wife will want to know that she is entering a relationship with a man who is financially stable and can take care of her, money isn’t something you will want to talk about too much. Avoid saying how much you earn in your profile because this then becomes viewable by anyone on the site and could leave you vulnerable to being sought out by women who don’t want to date you for you but are dating you for how much you make. Some women might also see it as bragging, which isn’t a quality that appeals to a single girl from Moldova as well as from Russia or Ukraine. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t talk about your job, which can be a topic of conversation, just don’t talk about your income.
At the end of the day, everyone is different but it’s hard to make these differences stand out from the crowd when it comes to profiles. Before you start writing, think about what makes you different, what will catch the eye of all the gorgeous Russian women looking for love. Then think about how you would feel if you read your profile and didn’t know you. You need to find a balance between being interesting and different and avoiding bragging or exaggeration. Once you do, you’ll have a profile that shows who you are, and which will get lots of interest from the women at FindBride.com.