I spent so much time afraid of choosing wrong, but I think the real problem is that I don't trust my own judgment yet. And how can I recognize a good person if I don't have a strong sense of who I am? It's like trying to match puzzle pieces when you don't even know what picture you're making. So maybe the best thing for me right now isn't to find the perfect person—it's to become someone I actually know. Someone with a spine. Someone with real opinions and real boundaries. 💚

When I think about it this way, I get less anxious. Because the work isn't about waiting and hoping to choose right. The work is about me. About becoming clearer every day about what I value, what I won't accept, what actually matters to me. And once I do that—once I have that foundation in myself—choosing becomes so much simpler. Not because there's one "right" answer, but because I'll actually know what's right for me. 🌸

What if the person I meet isn't as important as the person I become before I meet them? That changes everything. That means I have something to do right now, today, while I'm still uncertain. I have work to do on myself. And that's actually exciting. That means I'm not powerless. That means I have control over at least one part of this equation—the part that matters most. 💭