We women have been silent for a long time. But it's time to admit it out loud: many of us are tired of "warming up a kettle" that isn't going to whistle 😒. What does that mean? It means investing attention, time, interest, warmth... in a man who doesn't give feedback. No "yes" or "no." No step forward, no honest "I don't want to." Only silence, uncertainty, and eternal anticipation of when he will finally "boil" and show himself 🔄.

Sometimes men wonder why women don’t rush to go on a first date with everyone who says “Hi.” And I’ll tell you without reproach, just as it is. One day, I actually went on a date… but not with a man. I took my notepad 📖, a pen, some warmth in a thermos and went to where I felt good. There was a table by the window, a blanket, light jazz, and the feeling that I was with the most important person in my life myself.

We women don't always dream of a prince with a perfect hairstyle and candles around the room. Sometimes our imagination takes us somewhere more... honest realities. Sometimes we imagine not a candlelit dinner, but how he, having eaten too much borscht, fell asleep on the couch 🛋️, burying his face in a pillow... and gave such a concert that even the cat moved to the bathroom. 🙉

We are not your competitors. We are not your echo or your shadows. We are those who know how to walk next to you, not follow you. But if you decide to be the "boss" first look at who is standing in front of you. Perhaps it is a woman who already knows how to lead, make decisions, take responsibility. Not because she wants to dominate, but because she knows how 💼🔥

If we, women, were men, many of us would definitely not want to write to ourselves. Yes, it sounds bold. But admit it: in the place of a man, you would also scroll through yourself. No offense. Just honestly❤️

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The world teaches us to run and tick off our importance. But I choose a slow rhythm. Not because I'm lazy — but because I hear myself better this way.

Sometimes people seem too loud, and the forest, on the contrary, is so quiet that it is there that you can hear yourself. I will tell you how I found answers there that I did not hear from others.

Not everything about a person can be put into a biography. Sometimes the most genuine pieces of “me” are oddities that no one needs. Except for me.

Why it’s sometimes more important to abandon old words than to cling to them out of fear of seeming “inconsistent.”

Many of us grew up with the conviction that the perfect couple is when two are always and in everything together. General interests, friends, hobbies, plans, dreams, even thoughts. Against the backdrop of films and books where love is shown as a complete merger, it seems: if you do not share absolutely everything, it means that something is wrong in the relationship. But is it really so?

“You react too sharply”, “Again you begin to worry about nonsense”, “Well, what are you so vulnerable?” - These phrases seem to be calm, but they leave inside the feeling of shame. For their feelings, emotions, tears, anxiety. Especially in love. Where, it would seem, to be real and sensitive should be safe. But why do we begin to fear precisely the part that makes us alive?

The script familiar to many: one person breaks into a relationship, as if falling in love with all his heart in three days - already dreams of joint trips, evenings, and keys from one apartment. And the other - as if slowing down, retreating a step, is in no hurry to say “we” instead of “I”. This does not necessarily mean that there are no feelings.

Love is about warmth, proximity and acceptance. But sometimes, behind the words “I love you”, something completely different is hidden: anxiety, control, an attempt to dissolve in a partner to the last cell. And then relations cease to be about two, about freedom and reciprocity - and turn into emotional suffocation. It is not always immediately clear where the border is. And today I want to calmly, without excesses, talk about it.

Sometimes words are not needed. We can be silent nearby and feel close. But there is another silence - cold, tense, anxious. It does not heal, but wounds. It does not allow to catch your breath, but accumulates a storm inside. And if silence becomes a familiar language in a couple, relationships begin to crack. Because silence is not just a lack of words. This is a way to speak ... without sound. And we, alas, often understand this language too painful.

Love is a seemingly safe space. Where you can be yourself, do not hide, do not pretend to be strong, if you want to cry, do not seem cheerful if it is sad. But in reality, even in close relationships, we often wear armor. We are afraid to say excess, show weakness, admit anxieties. And even the most warm feelings do not always save from fear of being vulnerable.

Sometimes I am asked: “Aren’t you tired of flying from place to place all the time?” And I always smile, because this question is like asking the sea if it is tired of being endless… ✈️

Together, they are the perfect union. Because one sees the goal, and the other sees everything that lies on the path to it.

Love is not the absence of difficulties. It is the desire to overcome them together.

🎧 Is your music of happiness playing? If so, turn down everything else and listen.